Thursday, July 26, 2007

for eb (and other inquiring minds)

Or...more about the trip south. Have any idea what you get when you take (2) 46 y.o. lesbians (ebony/ivory combo optional), toss in 2 cups of long distance relationship, add another 1/4 cup of mis-construed comments and mix that all together with 2 1/2 cups of emotional baggage? What you get dear friends is tears. Put me in the mind of that old O'Jays tune. To borrow a phrase, jeezie creezie!
The girlfriend and I spent some parts of our precious time together recently crying over one thing or another. The tears appearing fast and ending just as quickly. Still, we laughed more. In addition to the crying and laughing we spent the bulk of our days and nights eating, drinking, watching movies and just being together.

We took in the Nashville Zoo on probably the hottest of the hot days. Afro dude here was a big hit. I was in heat heaven. Neta, not nearly as tolerant to high heat and humidity grinned (barely) and withstood it for me. We did finish the trip with some ice cold beers and other tasty treats.

Much about this trip was the same as the previous ones. (I'll never tire of the loaded omelets or uhm..other perks, honey) and there was much that was different (Popsicle play was reeeally cool & thanks again for the b-day cake, sugar!) Neta gets a charge out of being on hand to help me experience my firsts. In the world of many things lesbian that encompasses quite a bit. How surprised was I to learn there were firsts to share on both sides? Very. How pleased? Very, very. What I've enjoyed most about my trips so far though, is the rest. I sleep like a baby when I'm with my baby.

This trip also included meet and greets; another friend, co-workers and do dee do dee do dee do deeeeeee THE PARENTS. Mom had been nagging Neta nutty about meeting me. Of course I was nervous but not worried. The meeting(s) went off without a hitch. They were both gracious, friendly and pleasant. Dad offered an explanation as to why there were two TVs running (as did Mom) and Mom talked a mile a minute. She is full of energetic verve. I enjoyed meeting them both and look forward to getting to know them better.

This trip, the longest of the three to date was also the most fun, emotionally charged, sweet and exciting. We spent every moment together, except for that last un-planned partial day and we tried very hard to keep the eventual "so long" (we don't say good-bye) out of our heads.

The first week back was always the hardest. This time was no exception. Adding to the pangs this time is the knowledge that in all likelihood we won't see each other again until December. We plan on spending the end of the year together, we will celebrate someones birthday (shhhh she's ignoring it), the anniversary of our meeting and bring in the New Year wrapped in each other's arms. We might even be awake at the stroke of midnight, doubtful, but it could happen.

In the meantime, we will try to avoid thinking about December being 5 long months away while burning up the phone lines talking each other giddy.


  1. Oh LORD.
    Five MONTHS?????
    Someone is gona HAVE to move.

  2. Oh I can SO relate to all of this!

    kmae is right... someone has GOT to move!

    ps. I am headed for Chicago. I will email my cell number before I go. Perhaps we can occupy the same space for a few hours.

  3. That long-distance thing is a killer.. maybe just a little weekend jaunt? Last minute deals on travelocity are a good thing!

  4. The 'sleeping like a baby when I'm with my baby' line is SO true. There is nothing that is more reassuring, comforting, SAFE than being in the arms of or have your arms around, the one you love.

    It sounds like you 2 crazy kids have really got something very real going on and that's so great. Though only having only a short time together, you're sharing a reality versus just being on your best behavior with each other - which will at times, lead to tears. Honesty will do that, but it's all good.

    5 months IS a long time - you need to fit in a short visit before then, but the end of year trip sounds great.

    Glad the parents were cool and the sharing 'firsts' is great! And when you can share a first for both together - that's the BEST!
    Sorry for rambling... ;)

  5. I am so happy for you is amazing when you find someone to share a connection with.

  6. Sounds like you're emerging into a stronger, deeper relationship. 5 months is going to feel like an eternity.

  7. 5 months is far far too long.


    The development of any relationship is a heady ride, nad it sounds like y'all are enjoying it. Continued good luck and LURVE to both of you!

  8. I can so identify with what you're going through. I did it twice. I moved 3,000 miles away the first time and was going to move from San Francisco to L.A. the last time.

    Good luck and have fun!

  9. If this is working out, and it really sounds like it is, maybe it's time to think about a move for one of you.

    On the positive side, I'd imagine the time apart increases your ability to communicate, which only makes your communication when you're together all that much better. Which, makes your relationship all the better.

    But really, 5 mos.? Move already. (said in a teasing voice) :)

  10. It sounds like you had a wonderful time indeed. I'm glad to hear that things are headed in the right direction and I'm sure it will work out. I'll try to be positive and say that the five months will fly and before you know it you'll be with your honey again.

  11. HI there.
    Some "Beautiful" sentiments here. I too hope that you both are able to see each other before December but if not, think of the reunion!!!

    And may I say that "Popsicle" play sounds quite interesting!

  12. Thanks to all for your well wishes and suggestions.

    We are taking it a day at a time-each day being one day closer to our ultimate goal.

  13. Deborah
    Even a relationship cynic like me can see that the five month good....makes me fact I'm going to worry about it so much, I might have to write about it..and speaking of birthdays, dontcha have one coming up too??

  14. I am glad you are so happy. Focus on that and the five months will pass before you know it.

  15. Very sweet!

    I am glad that you are so glad... know what I mean?

    As for not sleeping well... Mrs Gunfighter and Soccergirl just got back from Milwaukee, yesterday. First good night of sleep I have had since they left.


  16. I say you two need to get on the stick (the popsicle stick if need be) and make plans before Dec. It sounds like you have something very special between you, and that would be ashame to hold back for that long.

  17. shall we take bets on that 5 months?
    lets see if y'all make it that long. :)

  18. Anonymous11:29 AM

    I'm betting you can get there from where you are in sooner than 5 months.

    New Year's with your love. Sweet!

    But don't wait that long. Really. Seriously. :o)



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