My relationship with my co-workers is pretty cordial. In fact, the human resources / compliance director commented in my review that I got along with everyone. It isn't difficult as I like most of them. Most are pleasant and cordial in their own right.
Then something . .
Last week a co-worker sidled up to my workstation with a pretense of making chit-chat about tea. A couple of seconds in, she pass me a note. My ears started burning for I knew this was BS in the making. The note began, "I don't mean to be nosey. . "
Why do folks open with the gambit when that is exactly what they intend?
In her note the co-worker wanted to know if I'd received a raise in conjunction with the recent review and if so, if I was happy with it.
Once the urge to flash her my, "are you kidding me?" face passed, I replied, as gently and cordially as I could, "I am not comfortable with this topic." Co-worker cobbled up her note and toddled along back to her own workstation
We've worked together for over a year with little more than cordial greetings passing between us. If not for recent circumstances (company lost a large client forcing a couple of lay-offs. Others have resigned due to unhappiness with reassignments forced by lay-offs) I believe we could have gone weeks, months, beyond in a similar fashion.
Recent events notwithstanding, I was still taken aback.
Yet, I will endeavor to maintain my equanimity. I hope she and anyone else she may have shared some version of this event with does the same.
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